Sometimes, All we need is Perspective..
It seems apt. To start this little venture into blogging with the one thing that I think is absolutely essential for every one of us, to have the sought after peace of mind; which also ironically, happens to be something that is missing today..!
So.. Ever look at a person and have that annoying feeling run through your body and into your eyes? Ever wonder why you find some songs more pathetic and sad than everyone else around you? Or even.. How possibly could two people look at a wonderful couple in love and end up with two completely different opinions! I mean, either of them has to be an idiot with absolutely no sense of judgment, right..? Well, not really. Turns out, there is an explanation for that too. Perception..! To quote Aldous Huxley,
“There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors of Perception”
Know what he means? THAT, by the way, was one of the simpler explanations i could find. Let me tell you a little incident. Harry, after a tiff with a couple colleagues, tells me,
“I am not interested in what people perceive me as.. If you don’t take time out to learn about me, your perception is not my problem.”
Well, he is right. Perception is not reality. Facts are reality. But, Harry is deluded if he thinks everyone is going to take time out to learn facts about him. Not today, when for lack of time and sake of convenience, all people care about is an executive summary; Be it an investment, a situation or even a person for that matter. It is up to us to capture someone’s attention and try to shape those perceptions. But Alas, Harry isn’t interested in that. My point is, what ACTUALLY HAPPENS are facts. Not the truth. Truth is what you think of what happened. It’s your version of the story. For instance, (before lunch) “I haven’t moved off my desk, working on the computer. My hands are clean” — Perception. Truth (for you). Your keyboard is likely to have more germs than your toilet seat. — Fact. Reality. What we do, conveniently, is emphasize on just the parts we want to, leaving out the rest and assigning them meanings. We assume it’s the truth. We refuse to see beyond OUR PERCEPTION.
Look at these two arrows. Which horizontal line is longer?
They are exactly the same. However, the top one looks longer for two reasons. The optical illusion tricking us into it; and more importantly, our willingness to assume things and jump to conclusions.
It probably feels like a twisted concept; Not because it’s rocket science, but because it’s hard to feel and harder to realize. Wars have been fought and millions killed for lack of ability to have the perception and understand that EVERYONE thinks differently. Some argue for war, some against it. Is war right? Am not here to answer that. What i want to convey is the fact that truth is fluid. Do not perceive things based on how they come across to you. We fill in a lot of blanks in our mind. When we are not sure, or have an incomplete perception, we conveniently fill the blanks. Something tragic or life-changing happens to the best of us. You can either choose to throw away the good in your life, assuming the worst for the future; or you can use it as a stepping stone to inspire yourself fight harder for what’s lost.
So, what does this all come to..? Do not make decisions based on your version of the story. Do not label people around you and situations around you without questioning yourself and knowing their version of the story. Perception is just a state of mind, and don’t let your state of mind decide the truth for the rest of your life. The eyes only see what the mind thinks it can comprehend. It may not be the best for you. I have always believed that everything in our life begins and ends with a choice we make.
At the end of the day, what you see is what you get. It depends on what you choose to see. The darkness.. or the ray of light on the horizon. The darkness may not even be the truth, or even what you want. I’ll put an end to your misery by quoting Hans Margolius, which somehow seems fitting,
“Only in quiet water, things mirror themselves undisturbed. Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world.”
Give it a chance! The songs may not seem that pathetic again. Things will make much more sense. And everything you thought you had lost might not seem that distant anymore. Something to think about..?
~ Amor Sin Cera ~